Marrying someone for life is one of the most important and lasting decision a person can make, our human nature is beset as such that we get bored of everything when it is in excess. Even best friends or children can become an emotional burden if they are around too much of the time. I have had some fellows ask me the question about selecting a life partner (as I am married for the past 9 years at the time of writing this blog). I have a few suggestions for people to do before they actually finalize someone to spend the rest of their lives with.

Listen to them If someone says they’re usually in a bad mood or don’t know how to be monogamous, hear what they are saying and don’t think you can change them.

Go for a drive . Go for an eight-hour drive with your intended. Whatever difficulties you may have will make themselves painfully obvious. This test is not for the faint of heart or for those with heart conditions.

Kind and loving. If you’re really lucky, your partner will also have a family who taught him or her how to be that way. Having in-laws who treat you like a member of the family will make your life much nicer.4

Find someone you can talk to. As time passes, this quality is more important than looks, money, or position. If you can’t talk to your partner or cry on his or her shoulder, it’s not going to be a good match.

Make sure you have the basics in common. For example, if one of you wants children and the other doesn’t, it’s a deal breaker. Values and political differences can also be difficult to deal with. As we age, our feelings in these areas tend to intensify.

Make sure that you have enough differences that, if you are unable to go out, you can still entertain each other. If someone is just like you, it might get a little boring as time goes by.

Find someone who makes you laugh.  sense of humor can help you overcome many of life’s obstacles. If someone can make you smile when you don’t feel like it, that’s a great quality.

There are no guarantees in life. It isn’t possible to be absolutely sure about anyone. Take your time; listen to your friends and to your heart. Picking the right person for the right reasons at the right time is an art form.

BUT HERE IS THE SECRET: You should know yourself, do not go for societal ideals or what people suggest as good, knowing how you are and what kind of person can be congruent with your lifestyle is the main thing to look at when selecting someone for marriage.